How
To Make Close Friends? 10 Ultimate Tricks To Find Real Friends
So
Lots of people struggle from loneliness because they don’t know how to make
friends and some don’t make friends because they think people are selfish,
waste of time and they will hold them down which is true but only to some
extent because if you make someone your really close friend, there is a huge chance that they will stand with you in the time of need and especially if you
have whom you can trust then your life will be a lot easier as you will be able
to deal with failure, stress or depression in a better way because at such
times having close friends around is a blessing indeed and you can only make
people your close friends if you know how?
Some people have it built in them because of their past life but some people
don’t have that and they seriously need these tips. So here are some worth
trying tips for you to make close friends.
1, The Best Friend
Protocol:
According
some researchers, you can easily make someone your close friend just by talking
to them in a questioning and explaining way. In this protocol, you can easily
make someone your closest friend. All you have to is to ask people a simple a question such as what’s your name and tell them about your name but after that
ask them something else related to the current issues and then something about
their own selves which should be very slightly personal and you can go on about
talking something general like football or about their office work or your
office work and then as another personal question and then another after some
break and so on your question goes and your friendship goes with it, either you
can do it in a sitting or in many sittings or online chatting’s and according
to the personal behaviour take some time but if you start to feel that this a person is not your type, please drop further discussion because that can cause
you or him/her mental harm as you are not into them but just trying to make
them your friend to weep on their shoulder when you need it but trust me when I
say that it isn’t worth it as the connection itself is very important and if
you feel that the other person is not having a good time with you, then leave
him or her alone or if you yourself feel that his or her aura isn’t friendly or
comforting for you, then make sure to drop the conversation gradually and try
to find new people and try the same trick because this trick is a working one
and you can get into people pretty quickly if you try good enough, make sure
you have got your queries ready beforehand because if you meet someone whom
you cannot make an emotional link to is a formal person and can only become a
friend which too can be very good at points but if you want to make someone
your close friend then make sure to use the best friend protocol and get closer
to them using discussions, questions and time by opening up yourself just to
make them comfortable.
2, Be Close To Reality:
If
you are someone whom puts a lot of filters on your personality and try to
showcase what’s not you at all, then you might get people around you but you
will never get real friends which will lead you to depression and stress, I am
mentioning stress and depression because when you have a filter on yourself
then it’s a temporary thing you can put on but unfortunately, you won’t be able
to maintain it and in very less amount of time you will have to put more and
more filters on you and with time they will become so heavy that you will just
collapse and things will just stop working out for you and people will creep
out from your very existence and in the long run, you will be left alone even
after putting that hard work on maintaining your filters.
So make sure when you meet someone you put on a filter which you need not the
filter you want because you cannot maintain a wanting filter but the needed the filter isn’t required if you get close to someone as you just have to open up
gradually and that filter just vanishes without anyone noticing.
If you are not close to reality then people will look at go away but if you
look real along with you and your expressions you will get in peoples memory
and that memory will keep on popping up in their mind and they will not want
but need to see you again and talk to you and be with you because you have a real story to tell rather putting up that fakeness because love is real and
friendship is all about this emotion of love and if you don’t have that
emotional connection, you have failed as a close friend and no matter how much
you say that he or she is your closest friend, it is not true until your guys
are real with each other as a real strong bond is always on the basis of real
love which again is based on the reality of yourself now don’t take it the wrong
way and end up telling someone your dark weird secrets on the first meet up but
as I said before that it is a gradual process and you must take of your filters
in accordance with the situation while respecting the time spent with someone
because if you fail on that and start off with hard reality then you will creep
others out and no decent one will get close to you even if they are similar to
you in reality and it isn’t because they hate that idea, habit or want but
because you were too open about it like its nothing for you, then it’s a word
on your decency because if this weird thing is nothing for you then what is
weird for you? That question mark can creep someone out and unintentionally or
intentionally you will lose that person, so make sure to stay close to reality
if you want to make close friends but don’t forget the situation, time spent
and limits.
3, Don't Be Overly
Positive:
Some
people are very optimistic which is a good thing but in some cases, it isn’t
because it’s over the board and anything that is over isn’t good. Imagine you
are pouring water in the glass and you get so excited by the good things that
are coming with water that you don’t stop even after it spills over because
water is too good then ask yourself this question: “am I crazy?” and let me
answer it for you, yes you are! Because you are wasting water and just like the water you have to stop wasting your positivity and once you do that you will
come in the state of balance and the state of balance is the state of peace
which leads to success and now in terms of people you must understand that
people like positivity but imagine if someone asks you this “bro a bomb
exploded in California” and you reply with “don’t worry bro its good because if
you look at it in a good way we will have a lesser population now” just imagine
saying that and thinking someone’s reaction, now this is an exaggerated form
but if you are overly positive you do these kinds of things in your daily life
without even noticing in different scenarios and this creeps out people and you
fail to make close friends which again may lead to stress, depression or
something similar like loneliness.
To solve this problem you should start thinking before you open your mouth to
speak or answer to someone’s question and think about the words that are going
to come out of your mouth and if you fail to do that, just do yourself another
favour and try to think about your day before you sleep and think about every the conversation you had and you will understand where you were overly optimistic
and then you can correct yourself by changing how you react at some points in
time while speaking to someone about general things in life or about life.
4, Don’t Be Negative:
Some
people have this bad habit of staying in sorrow no matter what they are doing,
who they are with or what is going on they will be the most hopeless people in
the room, building or even the whole world because if you call them and ask
them how they are doing they will reply by saying only negative things and even
if you give then some sort of hope they will only discourage it and even in the situation where there 99% hope and 1% chance of failing they will make sure to
rebuild that 1% chance and make fit for 110% and carry it and because of that
people don’t like them and only thoughts that come from such negative peoples
though are negative and no one likes to add more sorrow in their life as there
already is a lot they are currently dealing with and that is enough for what a single person wants.
So if you are in contact with some negative person then make sure to distant
yourself and if you are that negative hopeless person then learn to bet
everything you have got on that 1% chance rather weeping why there isn’t 100%
chance of success because the person who can’t make use of that fraction of
glorious hope can’t taste the victory even if that person gets 100% hope of the glory they will stop their feet thinking that its some kind of game or trap or
something else and because they are so hopeless they surely lose that window of
success.
So learn to be optimistic and not just optimistic but learn to create a balance
because anything above a certain level is too much and too much emotion or
material leads to instability and an unstable person is a person no one wants
to get close to, so make sure to change your speaking habit and stop talking in
hopeless manner but learn to become a problem solver.
5, Me Too Conversation:
So many people struggle with talking and are out of questions pretty soon or
they ask questions in a way which might be uncomfortable for the other person,
for example, they will ask questions like they are taking an interview. So for
them you have this “Me Too” solution, which you can use to turn a talk into a
discussion and it might help you a lot if you are trying to learn about a person or if you want to come close to them because when you fall into personal
discussions then soon people start to build up a connection around each other
which later leads to close relationships.
So when you want to talk to someone, you go to them ask them how they are doing
and stuff and later when you ask them any kind of question(which must be
related to your topic of interest or knowledge) then in that answer start to
tell about your story or what you think about that topic and then take the
conversation to the 3rd person associated with that topic like a
celebrity or view of the general public and once references start to come up, you
guys will be talking like old friends met after a decade and have a lot to
catch up and in these situations if you start to experience and learn the
balance of opening up in accordance with time and mood, you will be able to make
people open up to you and sometimes people will share their weirdest darkest or
the most personal thing with you which will later lead you to years of strong
friendship or at least close friends for quite some time. This trick will
help you get close to people thus, help you make a close friend.
6,
Be Genuinely Interested:
So
if you learn everything but you don’t have this skill, then I am not sorry to
say this because it is the most vital skill to exist if you want to make
someone get close to you because if you are not interested in someone in the way
which they too can feel then they won’t feel comfortable sharing stuff with you
which will lead you towards failure in the path of close friendships as you
need to listen to someone as you are genuinely interested in their thing and
you are feeling each and every emotion of theirs and when that happens, you
will see for yourself how people start to love you because every human deep
inside wants attention and if you are giving that, then people will love you
and if you are giving perfect attention but you don’t have anything to say back
to them, then it won’t last long which is another bad thing because you want a
strong bond for a close relationship with someone and for that you need to be
able to respond to their words.
Let’s understand with an example of two people talking:
Ash: Hey! You know I went to the supermarket the other day and found a purse
right on the floor and I could have kept it but I gave it to the security
personal and saved someone’s day, which eventually made my day.
And here you are saying:
Moshi: hmm, you did a good job, I would have done the same.
Now look into and see that even if you were showing your genuine interest but
your reply was like this then you are not getting that grip over the other
person and he will think of you as a boring person or even if he or she
continues to talk, even then soon you will run out of things you guys have to
talk about because you have already talked about each and everything, you won’t
have talked about each and everything because that’s impossible but you will
feel like, there is nothing left and that’s because you didn’t know how to
reply.
So when someone tells you their story, you need to respond by your personal
experience or if you don’t have any personal experience, then talk about the emotion associated with that story or talk about the pros of that doing or
cons, according to the topic and the situation.
7, Share Your Thoughts And Ideas:
So
many people who struggle with friends are the people who don’t know what to
say to another person and because of that, they lack that skill of communication.
The best way to overcome this issue is to present your thoughts and ideas about
different things and if you want to do that in a way which has some value, then
you will have to produce thoughts about things which are logically correct and
are close to reality with some strong sensible weight in them.
The production of ideas having these values come from knowledge and logical
thinking and that you can inherit from the books you read or people you listen
too, for example, if you want to learn about the tactics of winning friends,
then you should read a book about this topic and this type of book is written
by Dale Carnegie, who is a famous writer and his book about friends is pretty
famous and hundreds of thousands of people like his book about friends. So I will
tell you a little trick if you want to gain access to knowledge because there
are many people who don’t have time to read full books or the just can’t read
books, then you can easily go to YouTube and search for the book you want to
learn about and you will find the pure essence of that book in just 5-10
minutes video and you won’t need to read the whole book and you can keep on
going in the hunt for knowledge and you will find pretty much everything in the very short amount of time but the real problem in this kind of knowledge is
that you have not digested it and because of that you might not be able to get
something out of it but yeah, you will be a different person then the person
who is completely blank about certain things or his or her words are far from
logic and you will be able to talk and present ideas based on the learnings.
Once you have knowledge about a variety of things, you will be able to think and
produce ideas and your thoughts will be clearly filtered from those naïve weird
words and when you will talk people will want to listen and if you are a man or
women of knowledge, most of the toxic people will filter away from you because your
aura will be too different for them to get close and because of knowledge,
things like stress and depression will stay away from you because you will hunt
them you will know how to use those feelings and emotions to your benefit like
if you look at stress, you can use it to break your limits if you know the correct mindset to use stress. (How
to break your limits using stress?) Just like stress if you learn about the feeling of love and its reality which many people misunderstand and think differently
about it then what it is, the real love is very close to logic and it is based
on the humans, selfish behaviour and you can learn about True the emotional reality of love by clicking here.
It is all about knowledge and you will learn to talk to people and you will
learn to discuss ideas as you will have ideas to discuss in the first place and
only this time they will make people come close to you as they will need to pay
attention to your words which is one of the key things for a person to come
close the other and this will help you a lot in making not only friends but
close friends.
8,
Observe, Learn and Assume:
If
you want to get close to someone, you should start observing the other person
but make sure that’s not by continuously glaring at them because that will make
you’re a creep which you don’t want to become so make sure to observe and learn
about people by their walking, talking and their movements and then assume
about their type and try to connect your personality with theirs by assuming
the interests of the other person, which will make the other person like you because
if both of you have many things to relate you will become best friends in no
time, so make sure you observe others with a thought structure in mind which makes
you learn about them and then predict what they might like or what they may not
like and what are the things they love and based on that when you will assume
and relate with them, you will be entering the close friend's zone is not time
but make sure you don’t push on things because if you try hard on every person
even if they don’t have anything in common with you and you can’t relate then
it might get backfired and even friendship would become toxic because a completely opposite person from you might not like to stick with you or even if
he or she does, it will have a pretty bad ending if it gets a true start in the
first place.
Now if you want to observe and learn then this skill requires focus and if you
don’t know how to focus then you are not going to observe someone in a way they
don’t notice because if your skill of observation lacks focus then you will be
good for nothing and the skill to focus is very important if you want to
showcase attention and affection towards the other person and you learn this the skill of Focus by clicking here.
These things might not look like they are going to help you focus but they sure
will reflect your personality soon enough for you to be amazed by them as they
are truly game-changer and you can learn to condition your body for general
focus which helps in the skill of observation which you can learn by clicking here.
9, Put Trust In people:
So
trust is the one thing that everyone knows is the most important in any kind of
relationship and if you want someone to come close to you, just pour that
bucket of trust in their heart and then they will truly want to be with you and
trust you back and if two people or three or any amount of people trust each
other, they will easily love each other and if you want to make someone your
close friend, you will need to produce the feeling of love which have a
connection with trust, so put trust in people and you can do that by telling
them a secret and make sure you mention that you have only told this secret to
they and that’s because they know they are trustworthy and aren’t feeling less
beings to play with someone’s secret and in the start, you don’t really need to
mention any sort of deep secret just something light, like you don’t like to
eat with fork and spoon and things like that but make sure to assure them that
you know how to eat with correct ethics and showcase that ethic while telling
others what you like because if you are doing something correctly but tell
others that you like it a bit different but because you don’t want to put them
or the society in discomfort they prefer
eating with spoon and folk and something like that will strengthen the
bond if you add the word secret to it.
Now don’t do the mistake of sharing some true secrets of your life or your
insecurities too soon because maybe the other person is the toxic type and after
some time or even at that moment they start to spread the word or laugh at you
and share things that are very personal to you with others by requesting them
not tell this to anyone else because these types of people exist in the world
and you have to save yourself from this and if you are one of these, then make
sure to leave this habit because people suffer from this.
Now if you use this trick nice and slow with balance, you will be able to make
close friends and actually influence others very quickly and efficiently.
10, Don’t Lose Your
Value:
Now if you are sharing your secrets and putting trust in people and telling
them about your life or things you like or your ideas, then make sure that you
don’t lose your value by talking about disgusting things about you or things
that is offensive in the society because they might creep others out and you
lose worth, so make sure to be slow, steady and balanced.
Now another way you lose your value is by your looks or your discipline or your
basic ethics and things like that because if you dress in an unstable way then
no one will like to talk to you, so exercise regularly and take care of your hygiene
and learn to walk from YouTube and learn to talk from YouTube and that’s just a
click away because if you are a person then your words will have less value but
if you are the person then you will have more value and that’s why you should
be well dressed and have a good shape of mind and body in order to get close to
people and get them to like you.
Message:
I hope this was helpful for you and you were able to learn something from it
but if you still have questions or requests feel free to ask me in comments.
Thank You
Regards
MAS
Knowledge For The Seekers
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